Nobody is super-human, and neither are you. Bethany has shown up to remind you that taking a break and looking after yourself is one of the most important things you can do. Think of it as though you’re taking out a timeshare on a condo at a spa. This works n two ways.
First - sometimes you need to share the time you spend taking care of all the responsibilities of life with other people. Nobody can do it all by themselves. You are no exception. And even though it may feel like you’re going to let something drop, or let someone down if you stop to take care of yourself nothing can be further from the truth.
Second - you need to share your time between taking care of ALL your responsibilities. This includes taking care of yourself. Think about it this way, if you’re not feeling 100% ready to get things done, you’re not going to be at peak performance. That means you’re going to have to put in more time and effort to get things done. On the other hand, when you’re well-rested, you can get things done in a fraction of the time.
That’s why creating your own time-share schedule is so important. But in today’s fast-paced world it can be difficult to allow yourself the vacation time you need to really rest and recuperate.
If you’re struggling to justify your personal needs here are the three simple reasons you can use to make sure you get all the time you need to be at your best.
1- You are your own best investment
This should come as no surprise. You can’t pour from an empty cup. So, if you’ve been wearing yourself out by getting things done for everyone else, at your own expense, you’re actually saying other people are worth more than you. But, this simply isn’t true. If you don’t invest in your own well-being you are going to burn out. And slowly but surely you’ll get less and less done. So taking a mini vacation is actually more beneficial for everyone in the long run - especially yourself.
2- Time-share is the key to balance
When you start investing time in your own well-being by sharing your responsibilities with those around you you are actually learning to set healthy boundaries. It’s very easy for some people to start taking advantage of others by letting the other person do all the work. But all that does is create imbalance and contention in relationships. To have a truly balanced and healthy relationship with your loved ones you need to set your boundaries and make sure that everyone takes responsibility for the lifestyle you want to maintain.
3- Work hard, play hard
Once you’ve created a schedule that allows you time to relax and gives everyone equal responsibility you can start having more fun together too. A problem shared is a problem halved, and the idea of creating a time-share in your home is no different. Once everyone has taken care of what they need to get done you’ll all have more time to spend together and make happy memories together.
The thing is, when you don’t make the time to take care of your own needs and treat yourself to a spa-day you are going to get overwhelmed. You are going to feel flustered and worn out. And that’s going to make you one very grumpy person. So instead of becoming a husk of your former self - setting boundaries by implementing time-share in your life is going to benefit you as much as everyone else.
You don’t have to feel bad for relying on others. You have the right to a comfortable and sustainable life as much as anyone you know. So allow yourself the luxury of going on that spa-vacation. Allow yourself time to unwind and treat yourself. It is time-share after all, so you aren’t giving up your responsibilities, you’re just adding to the quality of your own life. And in the long run that’s going to have a positive impact on everyone’s life.
Bethany is saying that you have nothing to prove to anyone except yourself. So take her advice and prove how worth it you are to yourself first. The people who matter to you will see how good this change is and be glad you invested in the time-share idea in the long-run - even if they are a bit grumpy about it in the beginning the results will speak for itself.